Redesign Wedding Ring After Divorce

Redesign Wedding Ring After Divorce

Redesign Wedding Ring After Divorce

I’m happily married and hope to stay that way. But man, the issue of wedding and engagement rings was fraught from the beginning, and NOT by either of us. We decided we wanted to get married, and agreed we couldn’t afford engagement or wedding rings. Nor did we particularly desire one. When I told my mother we were engaged, she exulted, “HE NEEDS TO GET YOU A RING! ONE WITH EMERALDS.” What. The. Hell. As our wedding plans came along, my mom often asked what we were planning to use for wedding rings. I kept trying to avoid the topic, because we couldn’t afford anything. I had eventually started wearing a ring of my own as an engagement ring, to ward off a gross dude at the bus stop, but we still had no plans for wedding rings. Then, a week or two before the wedding, my mother called and said, “Look, I have two rings here. One is a silver filigree ring of mine. One is a gold ring that your grandfather gave me when you were a child, and asked me to give to you when you were an adult. Do you think either of these would work?” As soon as she mentioned the ring from my (long deceased) grandfather, I remembered it. It was a small gold ring in a design that resembled an abstract seashell to my mind, when I was a kid. That’s when I knew my mom had gotten me, and I would have a wedding ring after all. My husband’s father picked him up a silver ring to use for the wedding — presumably from Wal-mart. After a year of trying, my husband gave up trying to wear it. It’s way too big, he doesn’t care about it enough to get it sized down, and it was getting snagged on everything. We’re looking for a replacement. If our marriage ended, I don’t know what I would do with my ring, but it wouldn’t leave my possession. I miss my grandfather. I think he wanted this to be my wedding ring.posted by Coatlicue at 6:47 AM on July 16, 2012
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Redesign Wedding Ring After Divorce

After a recent divorce, this customer decided to remodel her engagement and wedding rings into a new piece of jewellery she could wear, without them looking like a traditional engagement and wedding ring. We decided to combine the wedding and main engagement ring stones to create a modern, twisted style ring, rubover set to enhance the shape of her marquise diamond. We also made a pair of stud earrings using the smaller pear shaped diamonds from her engagement ring, rubover set to perfectly match to her new handmade ‘divorce’ ring..
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Redesign Wedding Ring After Divorce

My now ex-wife told me she was thinking about divorce. I told her I was ready to keep working at it, but it took both of us to do that, so if she was sure that’s what she wanted, I would do what I could to make it as easy as possible. She took a couple weeks to think about it before telling me that she was indeed sure, so I had some time to think about what I’d do. I didn’t feel right walking around ringless until the divorce was final, but I didn’t feel right walking around ring-ed, either. So the day she officially asked me for a divorce, I took it off my finger, put it on a chain, and wore it around my neck. It seemed a good compromise, a way to keep the symbol of what I’d committed to close to me, without still saying to the world, “Hey, look, I’m married!” Took some getting used to having a bare finger, but get used to it I did. I took the necklace off the day the divorce was signed by the judge, and that was much easier. The ring is still floating around somewhere in my parents’ house. So is an old microwave I asked them not to throw away. Because someday, I’m going to set aside a weekend back home, find a mold I like, and try to smelt that baby. After all, when am I ever again going to have a hunk of 18K gold that I just don’t really mind at all if I ruin?posted by solotoro at 5:06 PM on July 15, 2012
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Redesign Wedding Ring After Divorce

                                   Before                                                                         After   This customer came into us after purchasing their engagement ring from a jeweller in Hatton Garden. The ring wouldn’t sit next to a wedding ring, and the head of the ring wasn’t straight. They weren’t happy with the finished piece and asked us to make a new mount worthy of their gorgeous diamond.  After showing them a few designs she she fell in love with our innovative, new heart shaped claw design. We wanted to make it much more substantial, to sit perfectly next to a wedding ring, and to show off that incredible diamond to perfection (and we think we nailed it, if we do say so ourselves).     Customer – “I am so pleased we came to Flawless to have my ring remade. It is stunning, Rob is so talented, he understood exactly what I wanted and I now have the perfect ring.  Everything from start to finish was exceptional from the service to the quality of workmanship. It goes without saying we will be back for our wedding rings!”  
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Redesign Wedding Ring After Divorce

My husband still wears the (tiny, women’s) .2 carat chip diamond band I bought off eBay for him for the wedding. My similar band band fit for the wedding and I (having shrunk down as much as I could at the time) swelled out of it a couple of weeks later. I wear a $5 silver thumb ring that makes the dent in my finger, he wears his original band plus sometimes the titanium engagement ring (similar to the Abyss ring) I got him on his right hand. Sometimes I wear that ring on my pinky. I actually consider the dent more of a ring than the ring itself. If we split today and I took the ring off immediately, I’d bear the dent for months to come. I’m okay with that, and okay with the fact that his ring has made an even deeper dent. I used to wear this really insane 6 carat CZ and rhodium bridal set, but the coating wore off and gave me pernicious finger eczema. That’s probably some kind of object lesson.posted by Lyn Never at 6:23 PM on July 14, 2012
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Redesign Wedding Ring After Divorce

Divorce rings might be in vogue right now, but they have actually been around since the 20th century, according to Abazias Diamonds blogger Christina. Divorce rings can take the shape of traditional rings or can be clearly focused on separation. From quality to size, divorce rings vary as much as engagement and wedding rings. Christina shares her experience with the types of divorce rings she has seen:
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Redesign Wedding Ring After Divorce

The small silver ring I actually wore for my wedding cost $15 and didn’t survive the honeymoon. It was too beat up to wear from us having played drunken bongos at some point. For a long time I didn’t wear one, but my ex-husband sneakily purchased me a replacement ring – a silver sort of replica of the One Ring – that I wore for many years. I stopped wearing it the day he unexpectedly walked out for the woman he had been seeing behind my back, but the dent and untanned line on my finger lasted for months. I carried the ring on a chain around my neck for a while. But when I moved into my new place, I dumped it with the bent-out-of-shape wedding ring in my unused jewelry box. I haven’t even seen them in years now, but I think they are still there. My bigger dilemma is what to do with my great grandfather’s 24K gold wedding ring that I got from my mom when I got married; it’s been handed down to the eldest daughter in the family on their wedding day. I guess it will go to my cousin’s eldest daughter, so it can stay in the family.posted by gemmy at 6:56 PM on July 14, 2012
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Redesign Wedding Ring After Divorce

As an addendum to my previous comment, and with regard to the “do people really wear wedding rings?” issue, my ex agreed with the idea that wedding rings were weirdly and off-puttingly possessive. I had no strong feelings either way, so we didn’t have any. Oddly, though, our courthouse marriage by a judge assumed a ring and so a friend, who’d accompanied us and acted as one of our two witnesses, supplied a ring for us to use, which we used for both parts of the “placing a ring on the finger” portion of the ceremony. However, after being married about nine months, out of the blue my spouse had a change of heart and on Christmas day presented me with a pair of cheap plastic rings, for the symbolism. I was very touched by this gesture, actually, and we occasionally wore them. We were very poor and so a couple of months later, my parents offered to but us a pair of real wedding rings, which they did and we subsequently wore. They were so inexpensive as to be almost entirely symbolic and not having any intrinsic value, which seemed entirely reasonable, even preferable, to both of us. I think both of us would have thought it silly to have expensive rings. Thus I’ve not really considered selling mine for gold, though I suppose these days it’s probably worth a not-insignificant bit of pocket money. To my mind, that particular progression in our thinking about the rings was sort of ideal. It didn’t represent at all to either of us any sort of possessive thing — and, indeed, that’s why those issues weren’t involved in my decision about when to stop wearing it. In that sense, if I believed that point-of-view had legitimacy (which I didn’t and don’t), then I’d have stopped wearing it the day of our separation. But, instead, it represented to me my own psychological relationship to our marriage and to her. I needed time to decouple — while other people (including her) seem to have on/off switches, I don’t. It’s a progression of disengagement for me and that took some time. In actual practical terms, the disengagement was almost entirely complete from the day we separated. But I’m talking more about my mental state, my self-image, my sense of where I am and where I’m going. That took more time for me. And it happened concurrently while big practical changes were happening, including moving to a different city, far away. I was ready to remove the ring before the divorce was finalized, but certainly not on the day of the separation. I can see how others would do this — I think that my ex did this. But, for me, I needed a grieving period and an adjustment period.posted by Ivan Fyodorovich at 5:12 PM on July 17, 2012

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